What is the secrete to finding a female with a good heart that is easy on the eyes?

My last relationship took me a long time to recover from when I caught her with a friend or i should say friends. Now I've been alone for a long time and it seems like all are to extreme in goodness or 2faced. I'm no beauty but stay in shape and have a little trouble when a belly needs to be moved to see there toes. Sorry I'm pretty neg. right now and could use a real friend not one with hopes of using me to gain or achieve something if you can grasp what I'm getting at.